How did you decide on your GLL gown and accessories?
I tried on many gowns in various cuts and styles. I felt under pressure to choose the mermaid cut since it fit my figure well but in my opinion the mermaid cut dress looks stunning on almost everybody. I did not want to wear something that just felt like the wedding uniform, the same dress everybody wears! I love the contemporary and daring nature (and hint of sexiness) of the Sia. There was numerous people who told me how they dislike two-piece gowns and how un-bridal (they think) they are! But when I wore it, it made me feel both beautiful and glamorous, but most importantly relaxed and like myself. I got the help of my sisters and friends to decide on the accessories to go with it.
Describe your look in three words…
Daring, whimsical, fresh
How did he propose?
It was just before I was to move to Amsterdam for a work assignment. We went on a safari weekend in Hluhluwe, about 3 hours up the coast from Durban. We were busy trying to sight game and/ or big 5 in one of the hides when he got down on one knee saying how much he loved me and that he wanted for us to remain together always. He asked me to be his wife and I said yes.
What was your goal for your wedding / what was the most important aspect to you?
We wanted it to flow with our lives… my mother is in the wedding business and I too often see people’s weddings are so far removed from who they actually are. They want to change everything for that one day – their weight, their car, etc. While it’s great to want to look one’s best; it shouldn’t feel like a day in the life of someone else. We also wanted it to be memorable not just for us but for our guests too. It was important to both of us that we also were able to mingle with and enjoy the day with the guests and that it didn’t feel like a show.
The funniest moments on the day were…
- Putting together the bouquet. I wanted it to be wild and organic. The florist didn’t quite understand what I was looking for with the bouquet (potentially also lost in translation as it was all done in German) in addition to that, the style I wanted is also not really common in that part of the country. When I saw the bouquet I was quite disappointed with it and we took it apart and reworked it. My mother-in-law went into combat mode and dashed into her garden cutting and grabbing some of her flowers to rush them to us at the castle.
- When we were releasing the balloons in the afternoon a countdown was being made during which one of my nieces begrudgingly shouted that she refused to let her balloon go!
- My dad’s overly long and embarrassing speech! After what seemed like forever since he’d started talking, my mother piped in with an, “Amen!” forcing him to conclude it.
What was the most stressful part to planning?
I speak very little to no German and the wedding was in a part of Germany where almost no one speaks English. My Mother-in-law helped with the preparations doing a lot of translations for me as well where I needed to speak directly with the vendors.
Any top beauty/health/fitness or wedding preparation advice that you can share…
Take care of yourself emotionally; Happy girls are the prettiest! The planning process was sometimes very stressful as I was far from home and my support system, didn’t speak German nor understand how their processes work, and my fiancé and I only saw each other every 2 months or so, so most of our planning and discussions were telephonic which also lead to a few misunderstandings. Always take time-out to acknowledge how you feel leading up to the big-day and talk to the people in your life too.
A GLL woman is to you…
Authentic, fresh-faced, warm-hearted.
Any last advice or words of wisdom that you can share…
Stay true to yourself.
GLL gown: Sia
The Groom wore: Digel
Photographer: Chris and Ruth Photography
Venue: Hotel Schloss Weitenburg
Catering: Hotel Schloss Weitenburg